The real benefits for whom lives in USA

Life is hard, right? No matter where you live, as long as on the earth, seems no big difference. But still there is some difference till the day you see the difference.

I haven't been back to China since I came to USA, it's been 3 years 3 months so far. But the connection never stopped, because my mother, my brother and my friends still there, and they are a part of my life. I complained a lot while things didn't work out like I imagine, you will never know your potential until you are challenged all the time. But is it only me feel stressed? Absolutely not, the answer is some people even more stressed than me. Or many many Chinese people they are stressed much more than me. Lucky me, live in a country has more freedom. Yes, that's the real benefits for whom lives in USA, even its freedom is being taken away little by little.

What my friends in China complained the most is kid's education, job pressure, missing the joy of life... I understand them, because I have gone through them. Again, lucky me. I am living in a country that I can make my own decision, make my own choice. I can choose where to live, where to send Sunny to study, what job I like, what kind of life I want.

I once read a word from a Chinese News, said "how happy you feel is not depend on how much you have, but depend on how much more you have than your neighbors." Sounds silly, but it's very true. People always want to be richer than others, better job than others, even they compare their kids with others. It's extremely obvious in those big rich cities. So the consequence is once someone did something, then others will all follow, will not consider if they like or not, but don't want to be left behind. It's called competition. I remembered when Sunny took daycare in China at age 3, 21 kids in her class, almost all kids took different classes, dance, drawing, math, calligraphy, chess etc in the Summer, I was not keen to let Sunny learn so early just because everyone was learning, but I prefer to wait to see what she really likes. So I asked her, and we didn't take any class that year. Later, another boy's mom told me the kids in her son's class are all learning playing chess, except her son. She is similar like me, positive of her own mind. But then she said one day her son told her requested to learn chess, the reason is when other kids talking about it, he knew nothing, he felt left behind. Can you see the big market in China? Once you have a good begin to provide a kind of study related service, then you will not lack of customer. I don't know if she chose to send her son to learn chess or not, but it's so annoying to her, I bet.

I can talk about all those kinds of annoying thing in few pages or even longer, because it happens everyday, everywhere. But nobody can change it, untill the day the government finds another better way to manage the country with such large population.