Seems like mom is the only one that gives the most, and been given the most (love, hugs, kisses, and also kid's temper tantrums once a while).
This evening Sunny didn't act like my sweet girl, well, at first she was. She received the certificate from the school because she won the handwriting contest. There are only 4 kids in her school, and she is the only 1st grader. I am so proud of her, she did a great job since she came to America.
But things changed dramatically. Since she finished her homework at Play Centers (an after school program), so she has a free time while I was cooking dinner. She read books as usual, then she came into the kitchen and said she wants to make Lemonade. I told her there is only one lemon left in the fridge and it was long time ago, but she can try. So she cut the lemon and I found it's not very fresh, so I suggested her don't eat it, I will buy some fresh lemons later. Absolutely she was so disappointed, so she left kitchen. But soon she came in and burst out to me "it's your fault! it's your fault! I asked you to buy lemon when we were in Mars, but you said we don't need lemon. it's your fault! Say sorry! Say sorry!" I was so surprised to see her has such a big anger, why can't you wait? why you were so mad just because a lemon? And asked me to say sorry! I was very unhappy of her, so I told her no, and you don't need to be furious for just a lemon. But she couldn't listen, she cried, screamed, over and over. I am tired after a whole day's work, besides I am starving, plus I am still not get rid of the cold, my voice even sounds different. I can't stop her, and I have to cook, she just didn't want to listen. After a few minutes, she cried even harder, so I said "if I say sorry, will you stop crying?" She nodded, then I said sternly "if I say sorry, you need to say sorry to me too, because of your behavior." So I said sorry to her. But she screamed back to me "it's too late! say it again! say I am sorry!" What?! I can't believe my ears, "Sunny, remember, I am not your classmate, I am your mom. Donn't play any game with me, it's not funny. I already said sorry." "No, say sorry! say sorry!" I realized she has a bad temper now, she will cry till exhausted. It's not because who is right, who is wrong, it's just because she wants to cry. But I am a stubborn person, I will not say any sorry again. So I have to let her cry. Soon somebody knocked my door, I know whom it is, I bet all the building can hear her scream. So my neighbor asked if I am ok, I told her my daughter is in a bad temper, but she will be fine. She gave me a very sympathetic face, and pointed to her door hint she has a kind daughter as well, well, at least I didn't hear her daughter scream. I thanked her and Sunny saw somebody came and hid in the bedroom. But she knew she made a wrong decision, she bothered our neighbors. I am so thankful my neighbor came, otherwise she may scream much longer.
Well, I continue to cook, she really get on my nerves. Later I have dinner ready, she was reading on the couch. I didn't ask her to come to eat, but I eat alone. I was thinking if she didn't come, what shall I do. It's a battle between the parent and kid, I don't want to spoil her, but I don't want to hurt her either. Well, before I figure out this issue, she turned off the light and washed her hands, came for dinner. I pretended I didn't see her. And she grabbed her chair beside me, instead of face to me, she sat intentionally back to me. I laughed in my heart, if you don't want to see me, then why you eat the food I cooked? Kid, is a kid. See her is calm down, I said very gently, if you asked me to say sorry just because I didn't buy what you want, then did you say thank you to me for everything I did for you everyday? She didn't reply. Then we didn't talk through the dinner time.
After dinner when she passed the bowl to me to wash, she said thank you, and when I gave her apple, she said thank you, I love to her being a sweet, polite girl. But I also can tolerant her bad temper, because I am her mom, even I wish it will never happen again, but it just can't avoidable, I understand, but like I said, I won't be a tiger mom, but I won't be a mom only please kids either.
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