狼的哲学

狼的哲学
　　
　　１狼不会为了所谓的尊严在自己弱小的时候，攻击比自己强大的敌人；（卧薪尝胆）
　　
　　２狼如果不得不面对比自己强大的东西，狼必群而攻之；（团队意识）
　　
　　３狼也很想当兽王，但狼知道自己不是老虎；（自知之明）
　　
　　４狼知道用最小的代价，换取最大的回报；（投资分析）
　　
　　５狼通常都很团结，虽然它们独立活动，可你不会发现在同伴受伤的时候独自逃走；（同进同退）
　　
　　６狼很想做善良的动物，可狼知道自己的胃只能消化肉，所以狼唯一要做的就是干干净净的消灭捕获的猎物；（表里如一）
　　
　　７狼尊重每个对手，狼在每次发动攻击前都会细心的了解对手，而不轻视它，所以狼一生的攻击很少失手；（知己知彼）
　　
　　８公狼会在母狼怀孕后，一直照顾母狼，直到小狼有独立能力；（忠诚）
　　
　　９狼在小狼有独立能力的时候就坚决的离开，狼知道如果不当狼，就要当羊了；（授狼以渔）
　　
　　１０狼不会为噘来之食而不顾尊严，向主人摇头摆尾；（懂得自尊）
11，咱们国人最缺少最是狼性，缺少狼的团队精神，缺少自尊，为了五斗米而折腰，缺少那种狼的坚韧与狼的忠诚。

转：孩子的教育

家里有小孩的务必留着，太全面了。

优秀的孩子是这样培养的（建议永久保存）

教育篇：
1．每天花半个小时和孩子交流。
2．和孩子在家也要使用文明用语，“早上好，请，谢谢，晚安”等等。
3．让孩子养成爱卫生的好习惯。
4．多听听孩子的声音！——用耐心、用爱心、用开心，心是长着眼睛的！
5．不要为了提醒孩子，而总是揭孩子的伤疤。
6．严肃指出孩子的错误！
7．不要总对孩子一本正经，要多和孩子一起欢笑：因为笑声能让孩子更加热爱生活；引导孩子积极、轻松愉快的看待事物。
 8．给孩子讲故事，要有耐心，故事有一定的教育意义。
 9．不要把当年未曾实现的理想强加在孩子身上，想让孩子去实现。
10．关爱孩子但适当时候适当的惩罚也是需要的，不要护孩子的短。
11．教育并不一定只是讲道理，有时适当可以采取一些强硬的措施。
12．结合孩子的表现，每天思考至少一个关于孩子成长的问题。
13．对幼儿进行艺术教育，培养幼儿高雅的审美情趣，注意引导、丰富幼儿的感性认识，在大自然中加深幼儿的情感体验，是非常有益的。
14．对于幼儿时期的孩子，不要让他们长时间地和自己的父母住在一起，隔代更亲，不利于教育。也许没有科学道理，但绝对适用。
15．注意培养孩子的善心。古人云：勿以恶小而为之，勿以善小而不为。
16．教会孩子微笑，微笑面对生活的一切，微笑面对人生。
17．对孩子不要乱许愿，承诺的事情想尽一切办法也要兑现。
18．要常换位思考!对孩子的所做、所想等家长应常换位思考，假如我是孩子的话，我将会怎样？
19．给孩子一定的空间和自由，同时给一定的压力和责任！
20．向孩子说明，他本身已经很可爱了，不用再表现自己。
21．从来不说孩子比别的孩子差。
22．绝不用辱骂来惩罚孩子。
23．在孩子干的事情中，不断寻找值得赞许的东西。
24．不要吓孩子。以免造成孩子过分胆小、怕事。
25．不要当众批评和嘲笑孩子，以免造成心理畸形，失去自信心等。
26．不要对孩子过分严厉。以免孩子惧怕、害羞不敢发表自己的观点，养成面善心恶的性格。
27．不要过分夸奖孩子。以免孩子养成“沽名钓誉”的不良习气。
28．不要暗示孩子做不良的事。比如，打架一定要打回来、自己的东西不给别的吃、乘车不购票等。
29．让孩子正确树立心目中的偶像。

成长篇：
 1．给孩子一些私人空间。
 2．给孩子选择的机会和权利。
 3．让孩子自由选择自己的伙伴、朋友。
 4．让孩子做想做的事。
 5．让孩子做一些力所能及的家务，如洗洗自己的衣服、烧水煮饭等，让他意识到自己是家庭成员中的一分子。
 6．为孩子准备一个陈列架，让他在上面展示自己制作的物品。
 7．认真地对待孩子提出的正经问题和看法。
 8．把孩子当作成人一样，和他平等相处，把孩子当成自己的朋友。
 9．及时发现孩子的点滴进步，懂得赏识孩子。
10．记得对孩子说：我爱你，你是我的宝贝！
11．记得经常的亲吻你的孩子，抱抱他（她），摸摸他（她）的头，让他（她）知道你的爱！
12．随时关注他（她）的进步，并也让他（她）自己知道自己的进步！及时发现孩子的点滴进步，懂得赏识孩子。
13．多与孩子孩子沟通，了解孩子，与孩子同行。
14．不要给孩子贴上“笨”的标签。
15．家长要耐心地倾听孩子的烦恼。
16．要学会真诚地赞美孩子，而不是像对宠物一样说句“你真聪明”。
17．让孩子经常有机会和他的同伴在一起。
18．关心孩子的身体健康，更关注孩子的情感需要。
19．先成人再成才，教育的根本目标是培养人，一个健全的人。
20．在生活中创设一些困境，和孩子一起度过。
21．鼓励孩子尽量不依赖成年人。
22．了解孩子有哪些朋友，这很重要。

生活篇：
1．给孩子一些钱，让孩子学会理财。
2．没有得到孩子的许可，不要看孩子的日记与信件。
3．经常和孩子郊游。
4．睡前给孩子讲讲故事，让孩子笑着入睡！
5．给孩子一个主要供他玩耍的房间或者房间的一部分。
6．如果有条件,每天晚饭过后和孩子到户外散散步。
7．快乐与孩子一起分享！
8．对小家伙开心的笑，并希望他（她）也常笑！
9．帮助孩子与来自不同社会文化阶层的孩子正常交往。
10．鼓励孩子与各种年龄的人自由交往。
11．给孩子留出真正的“玩”的时间和空间。
12．教会孩子骑自行车，游泳,这都是进入社会的一种基本技能。
13．每天早上与孩子相互问候，让他感受到美好的一天的到来。
14．夫妻实在要吵架，请一定要记住：避开孩子
15．每天下班回家看到孩子，首先微笑着问他一遍：孩子，你今天快乐吗？ 16．不给他留有太多的物质遗产，给他一个健康的身体，给他一个健康的心理，一个快乐的人生。
17．着重进行孩子的生活能力和行为习惯的培养。
18．只要与创作尘埃有关，不要责备孩子房间里或者桌面上乱
19．父母对自己的双亲要孝敬有加，让孩子觉得家中充满了爱，同时父母也是他们值得学习的榜样
20．父母之际间要互相谦让，相互谅解
21．不要太关心孩子。“自己的事情自己做”，以免孩子养成以我为中心的坏习惯。
22．不要太亲近孩子。让他与年龄相仿的孩子多交往，以免孩子养成性格孤僻的恶习。
23．不要孩子要啥买啥。让他知道“劳动与所得、权得与义务” 的关系。以免孩子羞成好逸恶劳的许多性格。
24．生活中的困难以及一些家庭大事有时可以和孩子商量商量。
25．对孩子的爱要稳定，不要一会儿晴，一会儿阴。

学C习篇：
1．和孩子一起读书，家长可以看看报，一个好的学习伙伴很重要。
2．孩子在家学习，家长切莫搞一些娱乐活动，一个舒适的学习环境很重要。 3．不要逼孩子学自己不喜欢的东西。
4．不要因为孩子的成绩而责骂孩子。
5．不要因为孩子试卷上的低分而认为孩子没有出息。
6．教他（她）足以带来成就感的知识：古诗、数字、故事、家务、玩耍、交朋友···
7．教育孩子读好书、好读书
8．不要对孩子的学习成绩表示太大的关注，那样会造成孩子学习紧张，压力增大。
9．不要把孩子的成绩与其他孩子相比，要分析一下造成这种现象的原因，反思一下有没有自己的责任。
10．孩子的房间要有自己的书桌，书桌上要有几本自己爱看的书籍，如《格林童话》、《伊索寓言》等。

娱乐篇：
1．和孩子一起看他喜欢的动画片、一起听他爱听的故事等。
2．和孩子一起玩游戏、锻炼身体。
3．控制孩子看电视的时间，每天在半个小时到一个小时之间。
4．多让孩子看一些少儿节目：动画片、益智节目等，少看动作片、连续剧。
5．孩子看电视时，家长们适时地陪他们一起，并且对里面的内容作一些讲解与讨论。
6．春天可以和孩子骑自行车去郊游，夏天和孩子一起去河边游泳，秋天则背着铁锅和孩子去野炊，冬天一家三口在野地上打雪仗，堆雪人。
7．允许孩子收集各种废弃物。
8．孩子的朋友来做客时要表示欢迎。
9．和孩子下棋，让孩子知道落子无悔，教育他对自己所做事要负责任，同时下输了要承认，家长有时也要放手让孩子赢一两盘，这对孩子来说很重要。
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告诉孩子的话
（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介怀，在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。对你好的人，你一定要珍惜、感恩。
（二）没有人是不可代替，没有东西是必须拥有。看透了这一点，将来就算你失去了世间最爱的一切时，也应该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今天或许还在浪费着生命，明日会发觉生命已远离你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，预期盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）爱情只是一种感觉，而这感觉会随时日、心境而改变。如果你的所谓最爱离开你，请你耐心地等候一下，让时日慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦就会慢慢
淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然，很多有成就的人士都没有受过很多教育，但并不等于不用功读书，就一定可以成功。你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。人，可以白手起家，但不可以手无寸铁，紧记！
（六）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求别人守信，你可以要求自己对人好，但不能期待人家对你好。你怎样对人，并不代表人家就会怎样对你，如果看不透这一点，你只会徒添不必要的烦恼。
（八）亲人只有一次的缘分，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，也请好好珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见。
最重要父母的言传身教！

Trip to Orlando Disney World

I had my best vacation ever. Even I was as tired as every trip, but it's so much fun. I just wish I can stay a little longer. But one day I will come back again! 

Sheraton Vistana Villages. I will give it a five star review. From the interior to the exterior, best of the value! 

That small kitchen has everything you need. 

Living room

Spacious bathroom

King sized bed, my little honeybee is so  happy.

Brilliant 

gorgeous tree lady

best friend

duck's family

I was so amazed when see the objects talking, moving. So confused if I am living in a real world. But it's so fun!

Magic Kingdom, the most fun place to go

I finally know why Sunny likes it, me too! 

Magic blanket of Aladdin

Sunny controlled the magic blanket, and made me dizzy 

that little fan saved her :) 

Whistleblower pulls US into confidence crisis

Updated: 2013-06-14 15:17

( chinadaily.com.cn)

NSA whistleblower Edward Snowden, an analyst with a US defence contractor, is seen in this still image taken from video during an interview by The Guardian in his hotel room in Hong Kong June 6, 2013. [Photo/Agencies]

US whistleblower Edward Snowden has disclosed that the US government had been hacking into computers in Hong Kong and on the Chinese mainland since 2009, sparking extensive discussions about the US cyber policy and its long-held accusation against China.

The 29-year-old defense contractor revealed two classified National Security Agency (NSA) surveillance programs, one collecting US phone records and the other mining Internet data.

According to the Guardian and the Washington Post, the NSA and the FBI had been secretly tapping directly into the central servers of nine US Internet companies, extracting audio, video, photographs, e-mails, documents and connection logs that enable analysts to track a person's movements and contacts over time.
Snowden believed there had been more than 61,000 NSA hacking operations globally, with hundreds of targets in Hong Kong and on the mainland. Among the targets were the Chinese University of Hong Kong and public officials, businesses and students in the city, and the NSA also hacked mainland targets, according to the South China Morning Post.

"We hack network backbones - like huge Internet routers, basically - that give us access to the communications of hundreds of thousands of computers without having to hack every single one," Snowden said.

In recent years, the United States has accused China of hacking suspected US secrets, with China repeatedly saying that China is a victim of the worst cyber attacks. As Snowden said, the disclosure exposed "the hypocrisy of the US government when it claims that it does not target civilian infrastructure."
The scale and scope of surveillance over civilian infrastructure, particularly targets in China, took many by surprise.

"For months, Washington has been accusing China of cyber espionage, but it turns out that the biggest threat to the pursuit of individual freedom and privacy in the US is the unbridled power of the government," Li Haidong, from China Foreign Affairs University, said Thursday.

A user named "orsonzg" wrote on China Daily's website that the US surveillance against China should be considered from the fact that "The US moved 60% of their navy to the Asia Pacific solely to contain China, this hostile act of aggression seems like a prelude to war in my opinion."

The incident "seriously discredits" the US over previous claims about human rights, privacy and due process, and "is potentially a massive confidence crisis," Lee Kai-Fu, former head of Google Inc's China division, said in a phone interview with Bloomberg.

Internationally, the European Union's chief justice official has written to the US attorney general demanding an explanation for the collection of foreign nationals' data through its spy program. News media also reported that Russia may grant political asylum to the former technical assistant at the Central Intelligence Agency.

http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/world/2013-06/14/content_16622121.htm

2013 Mother's Day

It was a great day today. As soon as I woke up this morning, Sunny said she has a lot of gifts to me. Then she jumped off the bed and few minutes later she brought me all the gifts she made for me. Look how many hearts I received from her! My sweetheart! I was so surprised to see all those crafts she made for Mother's Day. And she even didn't tell me what she was preparing because she wants to give me a surprise! I can't tell how happy when I looked each of them! What a precious daughter! The one on the left is a hand/finger print picture, the one on the top she colored the heart, the one in the middle she used the computer to draw and typed the words in the middle, the bottom one is the letter she wrote why she loves me, simple but true! The one on the right are the hearts between she and me. Each of them is such neat and beautiful. Mother's Day I reap the love from her when every day I pour my love onto her. I am so blessed to be her mom, and mom's love will never end!

Later, I made this breakfast for her, thank you my sweetie to make today so special! 

I am not a tiger mom, but I am definitely not a cat mom.

Seems like mom is the only one that gives the most, and been given the most (love, hugs, kisses, and also kid's temper tantrums once a while).

This evening Sunny didn't act like my sweet girl, well, at first she was. She received the certificate from the school because she won the handwriting contest. There are only 4 kids in her school, and she is the only 1st grader. I am so proud of her, she did a great job since she came to America.

But things changed dramatically. Since she finished her homework at Play Centers (an after school program), so she has a free time while I was cooking dinner. She read books as usual, then she came into the kitchen and said she wants to make Lemonade. I told her there is only one lemon left in the fridge and it was long time ago, but she can try. So she cut the lemon and I found it's not very fresh, so I suggested her don't eat it, I will buy some fresh lemons later. Absolutely she was so disappointed, so she left kitchen. But soon she came in and burst out to me "it's your fault! it's your fault! I asked you to buy lemon when we were in Mars, but you said we don't need lemon. it's your fault! Say sorry! Say sorry!" I was so surprised to see her has such a big anger, why can't you wait? why you were so mad just because a lemon? And asked me to say sorry! I was very unhappy of her, so I told her no, and you don't need to be furious for just a lemon. But she couldn't listen, she cried, screamed, over and over. I am tired after a whole day's work, besides I am starving, plus I am still not get rid of the cold, my voice even sounds different. I can't stop her, and I have to cook, she just didn't want to listen. After a few minutes, she cried even harder, so I said "if I say sorry, will you stop crying?" She nodded, then I said sternly "if I say sorry, you need to say sorry to me too, because of your behavior." So I said sorry to her. But she screamed back to me "it's too late! say it again! say I am sorry!" What?! I can't believe my ears, "Sunny, remember, I am not your classmate, I am your mom. Donn't play any game with me, it's not funny. I already said sorry." "No, say sorry! say sorry!" I realized she has a bad temper now, she will cry till exhausted. It's not because who is right, who is wrong, it's just because she wants to cry. But I am a stubborn person, I will not say any sorry again. So I have to let her cry. Soon somebody knocked my door, I know whom it is, I bet all the building can hear her scream. So my neighbor asked if I am ok, I told her my daughter is in a bad temper, but she will be fine. She gave me a very sympathetic face, and pointed to her door hint she has a kind daughter as well, well, at least I didn't hear her daughter scream. I thanked her and Sunny saw somebody came and hid in the bedroom. But she knew she made a wrong decision, she bothered our neighbors. I am so thankful my neighbor came, otherwise she may scream much longer.

Well, I continue to cook, she really get on my nerves. Later I have dinner ready, she was reading on the couch. I didn't ask her to come to eat, but I eat alone. I was thinking if she didn't come, what shall I do. It's a battle between the parent and kid, I don't want to spoil her, but I don't want to hurt her either. Well, before I figure out this issue, she turned off the light and washed her hands, came for dinner. I pretended I didn't see her. And she grabbed her chair beside me, instead of face to me, she sat intentionally back to me. I laughed in my heart, if you don't want to see me, then why you eat the food I cooked? Kid, is a kid. See her is calm down, I said very gently, if you asked me to say sorry just because I didn't buy what you want, then did you say thank you to me for everything I did for you everyday? She didn't reply. Then we didn't talk through the dinner time.

After dinner when she passed the bowl to me to wash, she said thank you, and when I gave her apple, she said thank you, I love to her being a sweet, polite girl. But I also can tolerant her bad temper, because I am her mom, even I wish it will never happen again, but it just can't avoidable, I understand, but like I said, I won't be a tiger mom, but I won't be a mom only please kids either.

2013, 我说

2013，我说
意味着生命已经结束了3个轮回，迈向第四个
意味着人生从此不再波澜起伏，
棱角已经磨平，平静的心看纷乱的世界

2013，我说
生命的动力来自内心的强大
健康、财富，永远像捉迷藏一样
你永远无法长久拥有它

2013，我说
相信，相信我的救世主
这是一种关系，
是你幸福的源泉，是你力量的源泉

2013，我说
开心过好每一天
忘记该忘记的
原谅该原谅的
善待自己，珍惜有限的每一天

2013, I say

2013, I say
2013 means life has ended three circles, towards the fourth
means that life is no longer ups and downs
no more horns, no more edges, but calm mind to see the chaos of the world.

2013, I say
Life is from the inner strength,
health, wealth, always like hide and seek,
you will never be able to have it forever.

2013, I say
Believe, believe my savior,
it's a relationship,
the source of happiness, the source of strength.

2013, I say
Be happy everyday,
forget what should be forgotten,
forgive what is forgivable,
treat myself well, cherish every limited single day.